holy hell that was a long march nightmare
but it’s working again! finally! for the first time in FUCKING MONTHS
not gonna bother with the fucktonne of other things i tried, gonna skip straight to the answer, which is in this guy’s reply to himself in apple’s support fora. this is the most critical part:
~/Library/Application Support/SyncServices/Local was the culprit. After deleting that package and the Calendar and CalendarAgent caches the old calendars no longer reappear. Both the list of calendars in Calendar.app and the sub-folders of ~/Library/Calendars only have the actively used calendars.
this does not include the needed reboot to stop finder from having the calendars in its sync window even after the entire cache was destroyed so that’s my extra note. Nuke SyncServices/Local and the other caches and reboot.
(I also had to export all my calendars, delete them all, do the above, then start re-importing them one at a time. But that’s where the evil broken cache was hiding the whole time.)
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