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Dec. 2nd, 2025 09:11 am
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ngl it's been fun that the snow set in hard this year as soon as December was on the horizon

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Dec. 2nd, 2025 09:42 am
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 Wow, it's been a long time. 

I've been dealing with a lot of things this year. Particularly, mental health issues, figuring out college and career plans, navigating both working and studying (which has been quite difficult for me), and dealing with chronic pain flare ups. I've stepped away from the internet for a bit and have only really used discord these past few months. But, I logged in here again because I remember actually enjoying journaling? I can't say I'll be all that consistent, but I'd like to be back here more often. We'll see.

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Posted by Amanda

This HaBO is from Karen, who wants to find this romance:

I’m trying to find a college hockey romance published within the last 8 years or so. The heroine has had a crush on her best friend for years. Best friend has always assumed he could sow his wild oats and the heroine  would be waiting for him. Their mothers are best friends too.

Heroine and her best friend are freshman and he has mostly been ignoring her since college started. He’s on the college hockey team and is very cocky. When another member of the hockey team, the hero, I think he’s the hockey captain, shows interest in the heroine, her best friend decides he wants her but is a total ass about it.

There is a sequel in which the male best friend from book 1 is the hero and falls for the sister of the hero from book 1.

Does anyone have any ideas?

We must plumb the depths of hockey romances set in college.

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An order for tea was understood by this person to include a plate piled with bacon, eggs, sausages, tomatoes, and chips, three or four kinds of jam, scones, a heavy fruit cake, a loaf of bread, a dish of stewed fruit, and one of radishes.

— Georgette Heyer, Detection Unlimited (1953)


There is some context to this scene that I understand from other reading about the period - rationing, for example. And I've often come upon fictional hotels and pubs in the country serving much more generously than more urban and sophisticated visitors are used to.

But I don't really have a sense of how unusual this is - what a normal pub or hotel would serve for tea. I would have guessed a combination of something like beans, meat, or fish with bread and then scones or cakes, perhaps, but the beginning of this sounds more to me like an English breakfast than my understanding of a tea.

Also: is a dish of radishes just washed radishes for snacking? Or is it more slices with some kind of dressing? My parents were both fond of radishes and grew them in our garden, but I've never encountered the idea of a whole dish of them (and nothing else) on the table at a meal. (Recipes that include them, yes, but would you refer even to roasted radishes as "a dish of radishes"?)

2025.12.02

Dec. 2nd, 2025 07:57 am
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A rare freshwater jellyfish the size of a quarter was spotted in Taft Lake in Richfield this past October, according to the Minnesota Star Tribune. “According to the DNR, most years pass without a single verified sighting.” Via MinnPost
https://www.startribune.com/richfield-freshwater-jellyfish-taft-lake/601534536?utm_source=gift

Review
Prime Minister review – portrait of Jacinda Ardern shows a fully human being in charge for once
Documentary about New Zealand’s former leader records a shrewd but likable premier who did without the usual politician’s defences
Peter Bradshaw
https://www.theguardian.com/film/2025/dec/02/prime-minister-review-portrait-of-jacinda-ardern-shows-a-fully-human-being-in-charge-for-once

Review
Marty Supreme review – Timothée Chalamet a smash in spectacular screwball ping-pong nightmare
Following every dizzying spin of Chalamet’s table tennis hustler, Josh Safdie’s whip-crack comedy serves sensational shots – and a smart return by Gwyneth Paltrow
Peter Bradshaw
https://www.theguardian.com/film/2025/dec/01/marty-supreme-review-timothee-chalamet-ping-pong-table-tennis

Shells found in Spain could be among oldest known musical instruments
Conch-shell trumpets discovered in Neolithic settlements and mines in Catalonia make tone similar to french horn, says lead researcher
Sam Jones in Madrid
https://www.theguardian.com/science/2025/dec/02/neolithic-conch-like-shell-spain-catalonia-discovery-musical-instruments

Hole in Antarctic ozone layer shrinks to smallest since 2019, scientists say
EU’s Copernicus monitoring service hails ‘reassuring sign’ of progress observed this year in hole’s size and duration
Ajit Niranjan
https://www.theguardian.com/environment/2025/dec/01/hole-in-ozone-layer-antarctica-smallest-since-2019-scientists-copernicus-eu

Dutch king says he ‘will not shy away’ from slavery history on rare royal visit to Suriname
The king and queen’s visit to the former colony is the first by members of the Dutch royal family in nearly five decades
Agence France-Presse
https://www.theguardian.com/world/2025/dec/02/suriname-slavery-royal-visit-dutch-king-willem-alexander

mistryst

Dec. 2nd, 2025 07:08 am
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mistryst (mis-TRAIST) - (Scot. & N. Eng.) v., to fail to keep a meeting (with someone); to be puzzled or confused (by something).


Apparently in Scotland and Northern England, tryst does not necessarily connote a romantic rendezvous but can be any sort of meeting. To fail to tryst, then, can be easily coined (and was by the 1820s) using the mis- prefix in the sense of failure.

---L.

Absolutely fantastic

Dec. 2nd, 2025 08:07 am
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 New essay out today in Uncanny Magazine! The Stranger Next Door: The Domestic Fantastic in Classic Nordic Children's Fantasy. Want to read me geeking out about Pippi, Nils, and the Moomins? Here we are, it's a different kind of cozy!

Writing Update

Dec. 2nd, 2025 09:04 am
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I have several fic that I have started and not finished. I need to get working on them. I’m listing them here to get them out of my head and down on paper so I have an idea of what I need to concentrate on.


Small Fandoms Fest Fic: Due by Jan 31

I have one started. Naturally a Murder, She Wrote fic (crossover). *g* But there are several other prompts I’d like to write, too.

ETA: I knew I was forgetting something! I had also written a Hudson & Rex 'fix-it' fic that just needed a read-through and edit.


Fandom Trees Fic: Due Jan 8

EDITED & POSTED! I went with this one first because it was the closest to finished. Fic #1: I finished typing the first draft, just need to give it a read through and edit.

Fic #2: I have an idea, but haven’t started writing it.


Small Fandoms Bang Fic: Due Jan 31

I’m about 2,500 words in on this fic. I need to get cracking on it.


No deadline Fic:

And finally, that Top Gun fic I started writing. I’ve reached the final scenes, but as often happens, now that I’m near the end, motivation has left me. I know where I want it to go, but getting there has become an issue.
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Posted by John Scalzi

Today is Day Two of the Whatever Holiday Gift Guide 2025, and today the focus is on Non-Traditionally Published Books: Self-published works, electronically-exclusive books, books from micro presses, books released outside the usual environs of the publishing world, and so on. Hey, I put my first novel up on this very Web site years ago and told people to send me a dollar if they liked it. Look where it got me. I hope you find some good stuff today.

Please note that the comment thread today is only for non-traditional authors and editors to post about their books; please do not leave other comments, as they will be snipped out to keep the thread from getting cluttered. Thanks!

Authors/editors: Here’s how to post in this thread. Please follow these directions!

1. Authors and editors of non-traditionally published books only. This includes comics and graphic novels, as well as non-fiction books and audiobooks. If your book has been traditionally published — available in bookstores on a returnable basis — post about your book in the thread that went up yesterday (if you are in doubt, assume you are non-traditionally published and post here). If you are a creator in another form or medium, your thread is coming tomorrow. Don’t post if you are not the author or editor, please.

2. Completed works only. Do not post about works in progress, even if you’re posting them publicly. Remember that this is supposed to be a gift guide, and that these are things meant to be given to other people. Likewise, don’t just promote yourself unless you have something to sell or provide, that others may give as a gift.

3. One post per author. In that post, you can list whatever books of yours you like, but allow me to suggest you focus on your most recent book. Note also that the majority of Whatever’s readership is in the US/Canada, so I suggest focusing on books available in North America. If your book is only available in the UK or some other country, please let people know!

4. Keep your description of your book brief (there will be a lot of posts, I’m guessing) and entertaining. Imagine the person is in front of you as you tell them about your book and is interested but easily distracted.

5. You may include a link to a bookseller if you like by using a URL. Be warned that if you include too many links (typically three or more) your post may get sent to the moderating queue. If this happens, don’t panic: I’ll be going in through the day to release moderated posts. Note that posts will occasionally go into the moderation queue semi-randomly; Don’t panic about that either.

6. As noted above, comment posts that are not from authors/editors promoting their books as specified above will be deleted, in order to keep the comment thread useful for people looking to find interesting books.

Now: Tell us about your book!

Tomorrow (12/3): Other creators (musicians, artists, crafters, etc!)

America Refuses to Go Bald

Dec. 2nd, 2025 08:00 am
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Posted by Yasmin Tayag

Throughout the 2000s, the music charts were rife with references to Rogaine. Jay-Z invoked the hair-restoration drug as a synonym for staying power. Weezer described it, begrudgingly, as a means of rejuvenation. Ingrid Michaelson, in a song about accepting one’s flaws, pledged to buy the drug for her partner when he inevitably lost his hair.

Now, as the Millennials who grew up on this music are fast approaching their Rogaine era, the hair-loss industry is eager to receive them—particularly the many women coming around to the idea that they might want to buy Rogaine for themselves too. Over roughly the past decade, hair-loss treatments aimed at women have broken into mainstream consumer culture, alerting women simultaneously to the possibility of balding and the potential to fix it.

Women have always been the target audience for shampoos, hair masks, hot-oil treatments, and so on. But those products aim to improve the appearance of existing hair, not grow more of it. Products specifically for hair loss have historically targeted male users. When Rogaine launched in 1988, it was available only for men. (The women’s version came three years later.)

Advertising for hair loss has, accordingly, mostly focused on men. Throughout the big-hair craze of the 1980s and ’90s, infomercials for men’s spray-on hair were all over TV. In a Rogaine ad from 2001, a narrator asks: “Will she feel the same way if you lose your hair?” (The answer: “Sure, she’ll just feel it about somebody else.”) Hair-growth treatments are an easy sell for men because many will go bald in midlife. Yet 40 percent of women experience some amount of hair loss by the time they turn 50. They just haven’t been as comfortable talking about it as men, Rachael Gibson, a hair-culture expert known online as the Hair Historian, told me.

Now brands and their ambassadors have taken the microphone. Nutrafol, a women-focused hair-supplement company that launched in 2016, has started selling its products at Sephora and Ulta. My Instagram feed is full of female influencers holding up fistfuls of loose hair and presenting sparsely populated scalps—then hawking serums, supplements, and shampoos that supposedly restored their voluminous mane. (Before watching these videos, I had no suspicions that my hair was falling out; afterward, I was convinced that with the right products, I could look absolutely equine.) When Hers launched in 2018, it offered topical minoxidil, the generic form of Rogaine. Over the past three years or so, many providers (including Hers) have started prescribing oral minoxidil, a hypertension drug, off-label to treat hair loss, which can be a welcome alternative to sticky topical versions. Hers and its men’s counterpart, Hims, also sell some of their hair-loss products at Walmart.

The proliferation of women’s hair-restoration products is impossible to separate from the booming menopause market. As pop-culture depictions of menopause have become more prominent over the past few years, numerous drugs, supplements, and telehealth platforms have sprung up to address it. Shoshana Marmon, a dermatology professor at New York Medical College, told me that she has observed a growing number of influencers targeting women in midlife, when hair usually starts to thin. Midi Health, a menopause-focused telehealth platform, started offering oral and topical minoxidil in 2023, and it screens patients for common issues, such as iron deficiency and thyroid problems, that can drive hair loss, Kathleen Jordan, Midi Health’s chief medical officer, told me. And because fluctuating hormones during menopause are a major driver of hair loss in women, hormone-replacement therapy can sometimes help.

Of course, hair-loss companies are ready to sell these products to anyone, not just aging women. In beauty chains and drugstores, numerous oral hair-loss supplements containing ingredients such as biotin and vitamin A are displayed alongside shampoos and conditioners. Last year, products for thinning hair and scalp health were among the fastest-growing categories in the roughly $450 billion prestige-hair-product market, according to the market-research firm Circana. Widespread hair loss during the coronavirus pandemic may have juiced demand for hair-loss products, and the rise of direct-to-consumer telehealth companies likely accelerated the trend: Hair-loss treatment is popular at Hims and Hers, a company spokesperson told me, because many people find hair loss embarrassing and telehealth allows them to seek help discreetly.

[Read: The year America’s hair fell out]

The most commonly prescribed hair-loss drugs are well established and generally trustworthy. Minoxidil is the “gold standard” of active ingredients for hair loss, Paradi Mirmirani, a dermatologist with Kaiser Permanente, told me. In both topical and oral forms, it works by slowing or reversing hair-follicle shrinkage, which tends to happen as hormones fluctuate. A drug called finasteride is sometimes used to reduce shedding; Midi Health combines it with minoxidil and two less-used hair-loss drugs in a “Regrowth Serum.” But finasteride is most commonly prescribed to men; it isn’t FDA-approved for women for hair loss, because it can be dangerous to pregnant women and their fetuses. (It has also been linked to panic attacks and suicidal thoughts in some men.)

Meanwhile, hair-loss supplements, like all supplements, are somewhat of a tangle. The highest-quality evidence available offers some support for swallowing ingredients such as zinc, pumpkin-seed oil, and omega-3 and omega-6 fatty acids, Elizabeth Houshmand, a fellow with the American Academy of Dermatology, told me. But purity, dosing, and consistency vary widely among products, and their safety and effectiveness aren’t regulated by the FDA. Herbal supplements that lower DHT, a hormone that shrinks the hair follicle, can sometimes be beneficial, but medications are “the only thing that really does work,” Spencer Kobren, the founder of the American Hair Loss Association, a consumer-advocacy group, told me.

The predominantly male focus of the hair-loss industry, combined with women’s reticence about thinning hair, has left many women clueless about the possibility that they, too, may lose their hair. “We hear all the time from our consumers that ‘I didn’t know,’” Cindy Gustafson, the CEO of Nutrafol, told me. Some are too embarrassed to bring it up with their provider, fearing that their concern will be criticized as vain or, worse, dismissed as just a part of life, Jordan said. Unlike men, who are generally more aware of hair-loss drugs and use them as a first line of treatment, women tend to rely on trusted friends and hairstylists for advice, Kobren said, noting that they usually try four to six non-pharmaceutical hair-loss products before consulting a doctor. Unfortunately, he added, women also tend to spend the most on hair-regrowth snake oil.

[Read: Soon there will be unlimited hair]

Women today are in an unprecedented position: They’re receiving more messages than ever about the possibility of balding, even as they’re bombarded with products to fix it. Perhaps this shift will make women more comfortable taking their hair concerns to their doctor, rather than to friends and influencers. But it seems equally likely to change nothing. Like smooth skin and mental clarity, perfect hair suddenly seems within reach at any age—as long as you’re willing to pay.

Dying minority languages in Europe

Dec. 2nd, 2025 12:23 pm
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Posted by Victor Mair

"‘We’re a bit jealous of Kneecap’: how Europe’s minority tongues are facing the digital future", Stephen Burgen, The Guardian (11/26/25)

What does it mean to lose a language? And what does it take to save it? Those were the big questions being asked in Barcelona recently

The author tells us:

There’s an Irish saying, tír gan teanga, tír gan anam: a country without a language is a country without a soul. Representatives of some of Europe’s estimated 60 minority languages – or minoritised, as they define them – met in Barcelona recently to discuss what it means to lose a language, and what it takes to save it.

Language diversity is akin to biodiversity, an indicator of social wellbeing, but some of Europe’s languages are falling into disuse. Breton, for example, is dying out because its speakers are dying, and keeping languages alive among young people is challenging in an increasingly monolingual digital world.

In turn, Burgen surveys the current bill of health for Catalan (about 10 million speakers in Spain; doing quite well, thank you), Frisian (approximately half a million speakers in northern Netherlands), Irish (nearly two million speakers in the Republic, thanks in part to the popularity of the rapper group Kneecap), Welsh (more than half a miilion speakers in Wales, which is slowly depopulating), and Euskera (around one million speaker in the Basque region that straddles France; and Spain).

Burgen concludes by stating that those minority tongues living amidst larger languages do best when they do not insist on rigid purity, but, following the Kneecap effect, "loosen their grip").

 

Selected readings

[Thanks to Philip Taylor]

Updates

Dec. 2nd, 2025 02:26 pm
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1. Wax's fatigue and stress

Wax had a breakdown about a year ago after Snookums died and we lost Anubis, the same as I did. But she hasn't really rebounded, just been scraping along as if she had the flu since then. She recently told me she thought it wasn't burnout, or anxiety, but maybe something physical related to menopause or thyroid perhaps, and she finally went to a doctor and had a bunch of bloodwork done. But it looked like it wasn't anything like that, and the doctor who gave her the results said she needs to probably see a gynecologist to check if it's related to hormones next. That was a couple of weeks ago, and she hasn't done it yet - she seems to have been alarmed by some vagueness about how the referral process is gonna work. This is her work health insurance, so completely differently from how it works for me.

2. Me seeing a doctor

I got up early yesterday to call between 8:00 and 8:01 am and actually got a record-fast callback in less than 40 minutes, and this time they ACTUALLY GAVE ME AN APPOINTMENT!!! The appointment is in a week and a half, shortly after my birthday. I have a whole list of questions unrelated to this medication to ask the GP while I am there.

3. Cat training & cat divorce

The other day Tristana and Sipuli were briefly sitting calmly on opposite sites of the gate looking at each other! It only lasted for about one minute. While I was still talking to Wax about it, as we watched, Sipuli jumped down, turned in a circle, then jumped back up and tried to grab Tristana through the gate, and Tristana jumped away of course. But it's still a milestone. (I think I've seen this twice before maybe.)

Sipuli is focused enough on training now that she will keep her attention on me even if Tristana is right there staring through the gate! She only ignored me to jump on the gate once, and I ended the session immediately. Since then she has kept her attention on me in spite of gross provocation from Tristana several times.

I think I will try training them to turn in a circle next, and I've started doing this with Tristana by moving the target around to the side next to her hip so she has to twist after it a bit. (Tristana has not even realized she can touch the target with her foot instead of her nose yet. Sipuli seems to switch sort of randomly.)

4. Attempting to become less sedentary

I was doing pretty well with stretches and exercises in the last few months up until I got my driver's licence, but the week before last which I spent at that job-hunting course caused me to drop all the balls I had been juggling (balls of daily routines I mean), and I have not managed to get back to the exercise yet. Which is extra annoying because at the same time I started knitting a sweater for an 18-year-old nephew, so doing shoulder- and arm-focused stretching routines would be more useful now than it was a month ago. I spent all last week feeling exhausted and didn't get past cleaning and knitting. But at the same time, it's now pitch black by four in the afternoon and doesn't lighten until after eight. I need to dig out my sunlamp and get it set up in a good position, probably. In twenty years I've never managed to establish a lasting routine with it, but maybe I just need more practice.

Advent calendar 2

Dec. 2nd, 2025 12:42 pm
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There were carollers singing beside King’s College Chapel as we passed, their breath smoking with the song. Christmas was everywhere – in the bright shop windows, in the parcels done up with string, the Christmas trees and boughs of holly, the sides of ham and poor drooping geese being carried home on shoulders and bicycles by bright-cheeked passers-by. I felt full of secrets and nerves as we pushed through the crowds. It all seemed so bright and exciting, but something dreadful and mysterious had happened only a few streets away. Would we be able to solve the case?

Amanda had come out of St Lucy’s with us, pretending that she was chaperoning us before peeling away to go... wherever it was she went, to write her essays. We were left to our own devices.

A man and a woman bickered over a long list, and a little girl dragged on her mother’s hand. ‘Elsie, if you carry on like this, Father Christmas won’t give you any presents!’ cried the woman crossly. ‘Really! It’s Christmas Eve! You shouldn’t be so naughty!’

‘I don’t know why people behave as though Christmas is happy,’ said Daisy to me as we passed them. ‘Really, it’s the most dreadful time of the year for families.’




Many of us may be too old to have read this one. Although I have by osmosis.

Quickies

Dec. 2nd, 2025 12:00 pm
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Posted by Patrick Kearney

1. Is Donald Trump a gay man? I can’t think of anything that screams “closeted gay” louder than building a golden ballroom. Donald Trump has been married to three different women (two of whom were immigrants), he’s been credibly accused of sexual harassment and assault by dozens of women, and he was found liable — … Read More »

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Just Play. Don’t Roleplay.

Dec. 2nd, 2025 12:00 pm
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Posted by Nancy Hartunian

Listen in on Dan’s conversation with a woman who learned that her husband had an affair early in their relationship. It turns out she’s been chatting with the other woman for a year without knowing it was her! She lives up the street! Dan advises her on whether to broach the subject with her husband’s … Read More »

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The Day in Spikedluv (Monday, Dec 1)

Dec. 2nd, 2025 06:52 am
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And it is December already. How did that happen?!!

I hit Price Chopper while I was downtown. Monday is usually my Walmart day, but we’re expecting an unknown amount of snow tomorrow and I wanted to be prepared. (TWC app has said 3-5 for the last few days, but other weather apps are forecasting higher amounts.)

I visited mom, hit the bank drive-thru, paid a bill online, did two loads of laundry, hand-washed dishes, ran a load in the dishwasher, baked chicken for the dog’s meals, cut up chicken for the dogs' meals, scooped kitty litter, and shaved.

I watched Tracker, a Hallmark Christmas movie, and some HGTV programs. Dr. Pol was my evening background tv.

Temps started out at 32.5(F) (but had dropped to 30.9 before I left the house; weirdly it had dropped even further and was 30.4 when I returned from downtown o_O) and reached 34. There was some wind which made it feel even colder.


Mom Update:

Mom was not feeling great today. more back here )

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