収束ゾーンでのライフ: Life in the Convergence Zone

It's very hard to engage directly, because the dominant male culture is to be an aggressive asshole. Calling them on it is, in their world, a precursor to a fistfight. I really don't want to get punched in the face for calling someone on their bullshit, so unless I know them very well, I'm not going to.

And making it doubly hard, people who are part of this culture, I don't want to know very well.

I'm really grateful that I rarely have to interact with this worldview, especially these days. Not every workplace I've been at is free of the misogynistic default male culture, but my current one is. Yay!

It's definitely a dominant theme of my life, going back to childhood, being abused by this culture and feeling apart from it. There's a lot of pain, there. It's very rarely acknowledged as a problem, by society.

So, on an individual level - fuck no, I'm not going to challenge aggressive assholes on their core assumptions, and I'm not going to get to know them because they're aggressive assholes. And on a societal level, I'm at an utter loss. At some point we seem to have become receptive to the idea that the image of women in the media can be harmful (especially body image issues), but that hasn't happened for men yet. And I don't really see any signs that it's about to.

All I know how to do is not be like that, and hope that other people notice.