solarbird | For what it's worth.... (Reply)

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Remember the irreducible truth: there's only three choices for how to deal with a conflict: Fight, Run, or Endure the L. (and many, many things you don't even have all three choices. That's just the best case).

Whatever happens, this is a grievous emotional loss to process. Only you'll know when you're functional enough to decide what to do. I wish you luck in the choice you have. Hard or easy (or nonexistent) you still have to shoulder the cost and renew your sense of purpose going forward. That's going to be cruelly taxing.

Good luck drilling down to whatever sense of purpose and meaning you have to sustain you in paying that cost.

If you'd like, I can discuss my reasons why "people voting for their own purge" made sense to me. But warning, it's pretty depressing. I'm not sure its worth sharing, even, since as far as I can see, there's almost nothing that is _possible_ to do (within the constraints of flawed humanity in general and our particular configuration of contemporary trauma) out of the array of what is _necessary to do_ for better outcomes.

(I have a few things I will be doing from that list of "necessary", but I'm pretty damaged and I have no hope it will change the big picture. It's still vital to do even so.)