you know, this is a great example of how the Patriarchy really does Hurt Men Too. I *desperately* want more guys to start having conversations around what kind of bullshit this is going on here, because this is something we ladies can't really do for them. But most of the post-macho guys I know are just content to be all "Whatever, I'm not like that, I'll just disengage from it instead of challenging it," and that kind of sucks.
It's like when Erik was looking for books on prospective fatherhood, and out of an entire shelf of books, he found TWO that just made him feel mildly queasy instead of outright wanting to throw them across the room. Because virtually ALL of them have this same attitude, "hurr hurr hurr don't tell your wife she's fat and if she bitches about not wanting to have sex or that her feet hurt, pretend that you care." It's awful and heartbreaking, that this is the psychological environment presented to men who are about to become 50% responsible for the raising of another person.
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It's like when Erik was looking for books on prospective fatherhood, and out of an entire shelf of books, he found TWO that just made him feel mildly queasy instead of outright wanting to throw them across the room. Because virtually ALL of them have this same attitude, "hurr hurr hurr don't tell your wife she's fat and if she bitches about not wanting to have sex or that her feet hurt, pretend that you care." It's awful and heartbreaking, that this is the psychological environment presented to men who are about to become 50% responsible for the raising of another person.